30's is still young! There is plenty of time to find love if that is what you want. I think a lot of people believe this myth that all the "good men" (or women) are gone by the time you reach your 30's, but this is simply not true. Plenty of people end long term relationships in their late 20's, 30's, or older. They wake up to that what they signed up for when they were younger is not what they could see themselves being happy with now they have grown and matured and come into themselves more.
Like the guy I started dating at 24 seemed perfect for me, and by 28 we seemed completely incompatible by the time we broke up. Heading out into the dating world at 28 I didn't feel like there was anything wrong with me - I thought I was a catch. Yes, I acknowledge 28 is still young by the way! I did not meet the societal stereotype of a woman who is still single in her late 20's of having baggage or something wrong with me. I had 2 friends who broke up with their long term partners around the same time - also both accomplished, intelligent, attractive, funny women with good jobs who simply had picked the wrong person when they were younger and put up with their crap for too long.
Knowing this gave me confidence: If there were people like us who were entering the dating scene after several years out of it, who had no major red flags, there would likely be men / queer women in the same boat. And there are.
My current boyfriend is single for a very similar reason; he ended a five-year relationship because he realized they weren't happy together, they were just together, not because they were right. He is a very good boyfriend. We met on doctorsingledating.com. When I registered for free. He contacted me on his own initiative. Then we were together.
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